Nana Lin’s Corner: Happy Notes

It is important to encourage the people in our lives that we love.

You can do this by putting these Happy Note Messages in a lunch box, under a pillow or on a mirror! You’ll figure out how to surprise someone! I have a downloadable sheet already done for you with some examples. Please feel free to print these out and start using them. I’m sure you can think of your own powerful Happy Notes.

Watch the magic occur when you surprise your loved ones.

Standing Steady to Reach Your Goals in the Midst of Divorce or Loss

Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.
— A. A. Milne

Statistically, most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions by February 1st. It’s possible that some of us may not really take this tradition seriously, knowing that it will just be a matter of time before we give in. Some of us may think we are setting goals that we really believe in without being fully invested. Some of us may really want to reach our goal but give in just as soon as ‘real life’ shows up. But for many, the thought of trying and failing ‘yet again’ is enough to keep us from getting truly invested in setting and working towards a goal.

If this happens year after year, then why bother to set goals?

For most of us, there is a deep yearning for life to feel better. And we think that by reaching a goal that we set for ourselves, we will feel better. But have you ever reached a goal only to find that in the end you weren’t REALLY satisfied? Was that goal really for you?

Many of my coaching clients come to me unsure of the goals they really want to accomplish and know they would love my help so they can live a happier and more fulfilled life. They’re either past the point of even trying, or they have so many other things happening in life that they can’t even see themselves reaching a goal that they set for themselves.

So how do we develop a way to stick to the things that we are truly and deeply committed to? How do we keep moving forward even when everything seems stacked against us? How do we begin to work towards feeling that we can even set a goal in the first place, and then really stick to it?

In my coaching programs, there is a quick and easy way that, with practice, has proven to allow my clients to stand firm and work towards those things that are the most important to them.

Please note, if you are unsure that you can even reach a goal right now because life seems so impossible, it’s ok to start small. How about a simple goal of “I think a positive thought about myself each day.” or “I create a gratitude list each night.” In reality, it doesn’t matter what the goal is because the magic is not in reaching a goal, it’s in the shift that happens when retraining your brain to see the positive in life.

  1. Test your goal.
  2. Notice what you notice.
  3. Reframe negative self talk.
  4. Practice and notice progress.

1- Test your goal. The first thing I do is ask my clients to put their goal to a test. Any goal worth accomplishing may evoke some degree of fear or resistance. It’s natural when stepping out of your comfort zone to feel a little unsteady. Ultimately any goal worth working towards should be something that is worthy of YOU. Your goal should be worthy of your very precious time, attention, and energy. You can use this worksheet to test your goal to see that it is worthy of pursuing. An example has been filled out for you here.

2- Notice what you notice. So let’s say that you’ve decided that your goal stands up to the test. Once you are committed, what do you do at the first signs of trouble? I ask my clients to describe to me what they notice. How are they feeling? What circumstances are happening around them? What kind of self-talk is happening? Use the worksheet to help you.

Chances are, the types of messages we tell ourselves when the going is rough, are the same messages we tell ourselves in our unconscious thoughts and likely have for years. This unconscious conditioning can seem insurmountable, but it isn’t. The wonderful news about the human mind is that YOU are in control and anything that can be learned can be unlearned or retrained.

3- Reframe negative self-talk. Once you recognize what the negative messaging is, now you can begin to retrain your brain to overcome future self-sabotage or defeat. In those moments of stress when you can feel yourself ready to cave or when life seems too much, there really is value in the old saying ”just take a deep breath”. This practice creates an immediate interrupt in the old automatic thinking and helps bring awareness to our conscious mind about what our old, limiting self-talk has been.

Write down the thoughts or feelings that you may be experiencing. Now try adding the phrase “up until now”. So now “it’s hard to lose weight” becomes “up until now, it’s been hard to lose weight”. By putting this statement in the past, you begin to actually rewire your brain to believe that the old belief is no longer true. You create room for a new, positive belief to grow and develop. You begin to gain power over the unconscious automatic conditioning that may have been running you for years. Use the worksheet to help you.

Next, write down at least one example of a time when you were able to disprove a negative. And since our word is the beginning of any new creation, if you can’t think of a real example right now, create one. Add as many details about this memory as you can– real or imagined. What were you thinking? Feeling? Doing? Use the worksheet to help you.

4- Practice and notice progress. How many times when trying to reach a goal do you notice and scold yourself for “messing up”? How many times do you praise yourself and enjoy your progress? In the past, it may have seemed like a motivator to notice all of the things that you’ve done wrong when trying to reach a goal. The truth is, that wherever we place our focus, we create. So in noticing faults, we create more faults. In noticing progress, we create more progress. This is why we use positive reinforcement when disciplining children. It works!

So take time when you are noticing some resistance in accomplishing your goal to list all of the things that you have done to get closer to the finish line. Congratulate yourself and really soak in the feeling. Think of the things that you really enjoy doing (and they don’t have to cost a dime!) and take some time for yourself to enjoy those things.


As you practice this process, it will happen quicker and more naturally. You will begin to see shifts in so many other areas in your life. As your thoughts are trained to focus on the positive, the other “stuff” seems less important. Those little miracles that carry us through tough times start to show up. The tough times start to become easier to navigate. We begin to see the lessons and gifts that life’s challenges are there to teach us.

Whether you are working on a New Year’s resolution or another goal in your life, you don’t have to do the work alone. I work closely with people just like you who are facing big changes in life and who want to see real progress. Many of my clients come to me without a clear goal, just the feeling that they are tired of life ‘as it is’ and need help to get to a ‘better’ place. I’ve been so blessed to witness client’s lives improve, some slowly over time, some by leaps and bounds very quickly!

I’m here to help. Contact me for a 30 minute discovery session to discuss how we might work together to help you stand firm when it seems that everything else is going wrong and to begin to build a life you love.

Transform your holiday ‘pity-party for one’ into something magical!

Going through divorce, separation, or some other loss is challenging enough. With the holidays approaching, it can be especially harrowing. Commercials on TV remind us of how Christmas ‘should’ be. Carols in all of the stores remind us of that ‘good old feeling’ that we long to recapture every year. Decorations on houses can bring up memories of Holidays past. It can begin to feel as if the things that once brought us so much joy are now painful reminders of what we’ve lost or are losing. The more we think about the loss that our situation has created, the more we spiral into a pity party for one.

There are a lot of ways that newly single divorcees may try to cope with the ‘holiday blues’. It may be tempting to overdo gift-giving or try to compete with the ex for who can get the biggest, most expensive, or largest quantity of gifts for the kids. While this may create a temporary feeling of satisfaction, it can create hostility between competing adults and this teaches children to value ‘stuff’ over relationships.  Some may wish to retreat to the clamor of activity and friends to drown out their emotions, losing out on valuable time that could be spent creating new happy memories and new loving traditions. Many people may turn to alcohol or other drugs to escape the reality of their situations, creating negative patterns that can lead to addiction and even greater suffering.

While these ‘quick fixes’ may seem like great ideas in the short run, they are not. Covering over a problem with a ‘quick fix’ is much like putting a bandaid on a dirty wound. Soon the wound festers, infection spreads, and the problem only becomes worse. But there is a way to actually SHIFT those feelings of loss, sadness, and grief at the holidays into something positive. And it’s EASY. Unlike the quick-fixes above, the only side-effect is happiness.

I want you to try something that was researched by Dr. Masaru Emoto. I’m sure you drink water everyday don’t you?

Good. So this should be easy.

Thanks to his experimental work we can look to water, and its frozen crystals, to confirm the healing power of positive thinking, uplifting statements, and prayer. He learned that the written word changed water. Our bodies are made up of about 70% of water so our thoughts and feelings directly affect us every day.

See more videos like this.

He taped paper strips on bottles of tap water and then photographed the frozen water. He found that words such as “Thank you,” and “I love you,” as if by magic, caused the tap water to form beautiful crystals. Words such as “You make me sick,” or “You are a fool,” caused ugly, distorted crystals or no crystals at all.

When I was young there was a saying, “Sticks and stones will hurt my bones but names will never hurt me.” There is proof from Dr. Emoto that that saying is false! So we can dwell in our pity-party for one and continue to create ‘ugly’ water crystals, or we can choose to transform ourselves as if by magic with loving words and phrases!

Directions for making  “Water Blessing” Statements.

Take a clear water bottle, a drinking glass or a water jug and place some loving words or words of gratitude on a strip of paper and paste the strips like the ones below on them.

  1. am loving.
  2. I am grateful.
  3. I am joyful.
  4. I am an energetic person.
  5. I love my life.
  6. Make your own positive sentences.

Get the free download to print your own phrases at home.

Remember that positive, compassionate words comfort and heal; negative words and insults hurt.

More water crystal videos

Thanks to Masaru Emoto’s experimental work with water crystals, we can look to water, and its frozen crystals, to confirm the healing power of positive thinking, uplifting statements, and prayer. He learned that the written word changed water. Our bodies are made up of about 70% of water so our thoughts and feelings directly affect us every day. Watch more videos below.




Nana Lin’s Corner: Countdown to Christmas, New Years, or Your Favorite Holiday Celebration

When I was a little girl we would gather my siblings together and make the paper chain the beginning of December. I followed the tradition with my 2 girls and last year I started the tradition with my granddaughter. This is fun and easy.


  1. 25-31 Strips of paper to make paper chain. You can use plain paper, construction, paper, wrapping paper, or anything of your choosing.
  2. Tacky Glue
  3. Cut the paper into strips as pictured below.
  4. Take one strip and begin gluing the strip into a circle.01144d33f2967c32773a68068ea2cb189e0edff822
  5. Take the next strip and link it together with the circle
  6. Continue until you have the amount you need for your specific Holiday Countdown.
  7. A design for the top of the countdown chain: If you want to put a cute topper such as the Snowman in the picture, a Penguin, a Santa or Snowflake on the top of the chain, 4 designs have been provided for you. Print the design, cut it out and attach  to the top link. You can download the pdf here.

Each day leading up to the holiday, remove one link from the chain (or allow the child to do it). Once you are at the topper or last link… celebrate!

Creating New Thanksgiving Traditions in the Midst of Divorce

Fall is a time of change. How fitting is it that Thanksgiving occurs in the fall? Mother Nature signals to us through the changing colors of leaves and changing temperature that it’s time to put away the old and bring out the new. This time of transition is also a time for gratitude and family. We come together to celebrate the year’s accomplishments and to acknowledge aloud our many blessings.

In the past, Thanksgiving may have been a chaotic experience. Shopping, travel, in-laws, and hours of cooking may have filled our to-do lists. But Thanksgiving is also a time for family togetherness and traditions. As separation and divorce bring with them the opportunity for big change, they also bring opportunity for new traditions to be created.

Change can seem frightening when we’re unsure of what the future holds. Here are 7 tips for creating new Thanksgiving traditions, even in the midst of divorce or separation, that the entire family can enjoy.

  1. Make new traditions. Make a new dessert. Pinterest and Facebook are flooded this time of year with ideas. Try something new that the entire family can enjoy. Invite a friend to join you. Do you have other single friends or friends who are unable to travel for the holidays? Why not combine efforts and create a new pot-luck style Thanksgiving tradition.
  2. K.I.S.S. Keep It Simple Sweetie. You’ve seen this acronym before. In today’s world we all crave more simplicity. Let go of the idea of the ‘perfect’ Thanksgiving and embrace the idea of the relaxed and fun Thanksgiving, YOUR WAY. Consider trimming the menu down to only family favorites and get a turkey breast instead of cooking a whole turkey. The extra time spent with family or friends rather than in the kitchen cooking could be the welcomed new tradition you’ve been looking for.
  3. Plan Ahead. Set aside ‘grown-up’ time to talk with the ex ahead of time. Keep it as cordial as possible but plan to have a discussion away from the kids just in case things get heated. Iron out as many of the details as possible ahead of time to avoid any last-minute arguments. The peace and ease of preparing for the holiday in advance will help to keep the spirit of Thanksgiving when schedules can otherwise get tricky.
  4. Don’t reinvent the wheel. Are there family traditions that are worth keeping? Perhaps board games and football have been longstanding traditions. Why change what already works? The feeling of consistency can also help children to feel secure with the vast number of changes already happening in their lives. And this can take the pressure off of you to have to plan everything.
  5. Alone on Thanksgiving day? Volunteer work is a great way to keep focus on gratitude and to avoid throwing a one-person pity party. Find out ahead of time where you can volunteer, mark it on your calendar and stick to the time you said you’d be there. Even if you find yourself in a mood to want to stay home alone, ‘fake it until you make it’. Go anyway! See how your mood shifts while in the service of others.
  6. Be cognizant of what you say.  Our thoughts create our reality. Be aware of your thoughts and feelings as the holiday approaches. It IS OK to feel blue. But it’s also ok to choose to remain in that state of mind or to refocus.
  7. Count Your Blessings. When you find yourself feeling down, a great practice to begin to shift into a better state of being is Gratitude. See the article on gratitude and download the ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ practice sheet. Notice how your outlook changes with this simple practice.

Nana Lin’s Simple Craft Ideas for Thanksgiving: Make a Gratitude Tree

Materials needed:

  • Colored construction paper Fall colors
  • Glue:   Tacky Glue (You can purchase in craft stores or fabric stores.)


  • Decide what surface the tree will be put on:  Poster Board, Refrigerator, white erase board, the wall
  • Decide how large your tree trunk will be.  Size the trunk and branches according to the hand size.
  • Cut them  out of brown paper.
  • Trace hands on the colored paper. Cut out hands to put on tree. Write what the child is thankful for on the hands.
  • Glue the hands to the branches on the tree.
  • You can do this all at once or write a thankful phrase and place on tree each day.



Get your children, grandchildren nieces or nephews involved in the Gratitude concept and their life will change too. You can always go on the Internet for more ideas, but when your mind is fuzzy, Keeping it Simple is advised!


Welcome to the month of November.  Thanksgiving is Thursday, November 24th and this month we will focus on GRATITUDE.  But for those of you that are going through a life transition at this time, you may feel that it is difficult to be grateful when what you are familiar with, has changed.

Do you know that expressing gratitude activates neural pathways in the brain? It then changes your vibrations and actually elevates your mood.  As you express gratitude your life will change!

There are Four Key Areas of Your Life that will begin to have a positive effect on your life when you adopt a Daily Gratitude Ritual.  The Four Key Areas of Your life are Health and Well-Being, Time and Money Freedom, Relationships and Vocation.

The power of gratitude derives from the most elementary law of metaphysics:
You will receive more of whatever you concentrate on.

Bless and praise what is working instead of being disappointed in what isn’t working.  In other words, when you give thanks for something, the Law of Attraction will draw more of the same into your experience.  Don’t complain about what you don’t want, because you will draw more of that into your life.

The choice is yours. Hate or curse what you see and you will live in a world of pain, sorrow and negativity… But give thanks and you will find more to be thankful about.  You must keep your mind on HOPE and not Fear.

“The secret of happiness is to count your blessings while others are adding up their troubles.”
-William Penn

Here are some ways you can write what you are grateful for. You can easily do one of these suggestions every night before bed.

  1. Get a notepad or journal and put it on your nightstand and generate Gratitude (or download this free PDF).   As a Life Mastery Consultant, I have learned to write it in two parts; what I am grateful for and then what I am proud of.
    I am so grateful for___________________________________________
    And I am proud of____________________________________________
    I am so grateful to receive this idea to generate a state of gratitude and I am proud that I have been doing this for 5 days.
    I am so grateful for paying all my bills on time and I am proud that I am budgeting my money.
    I am so grateful for my 2 wonderful daughters and I am proud that they have grown up to be empowered women.
  2. Make some strips of paper with the 2 fill in the blank phrases above.  One friend of mine uses a different color for each month.
    Get a basket, small glass vase, a glass jar or anything that would fit about the strips for the days in each month or for the year.
    Place the container on your nightstand or in the bathroom or put it in a place that you see every night before going to bed.












Use your creative mind to do your own version.
The main thing is to DO IT!

To Your Greatness,
Linda aka Nana Lin

The One Essential Strategy Women Need To Get Through A Divorce

When you want to make changes, but don’t know where to begin

There is one essential strategy you need to get through divorce. Whether currently divorced, considering divorce, or in the midst of a divorce, there is a growing concern: CHANGE. You know you want to make big changes in your life. Maybe you have no idea what exactly those changes will be just yet, but you know you want life to feel different from what it currently feels like. Questions mount: “Will I be able to handle all of my own bills” “What kind of support will I have from family and friends?” “What if things just get messy and I have no idea where to turn?” “Can I really do this all alone?”

First, let me say from experience, stop. Take a breath. It will all be okay. Now, keep reading.

There are some simple but powerful steps that you can do now to begin to gain some perspective, some confidence, and to deal with these challenges.

  1. Gratitude. Right now it may seem as if the negative things piling up in your life far outweigh the positive. The very fact that you are reading this blog is a blessing. Think about thousands of things that you do automatically that allow you to read, comprehend, and process this information. You have sight. And if you don’t have sight it’s likely that you are listening to this, which means you have hearing. You have the mental capacity to understand the information that you are now reading (or listening to). Hundreds of thousands of chemical reactions are taking place in your brain, allowing you to understand and retain this information. You may even be comparing this information to things you have heard about or read before. You may even be thinking about how you can apply this to future events in your life. And a great deal of these actions are taking place almost involuntarily by you. In fact, every day we experience much of our day on autopilot. Think of what gifts each of our senses are. Think of how blessed we are that we are able to function so well from day to day with minimal effort on our part. Imagine what it might be like if we had to expend effort to do each mundane task, one at a time.Once you begin to think about all of the teeny tiny things in life there are to be grateful for, how do you feel? It is impossible to feel fear and gratitude simultaneously. Spend some time listing as many things in your life there are to be grateful for.
  2. Vision. Once you have made a gratitude list, begin to think about the life that you would like to create for yourself. There is no dream too big or too small, and you don’t even have to have a plan to make your dreams come true. By simply having a dream or goal in mind, you are on your way to that better feeling life. What does your dream look like? Smell like? Taste like? Who are you with? Where are you geographically? Are you in a different house? On a different continent? Are you in solitude in a sacred space or surrounded by loving friends and family? There is no right or wrong here. This is your dream. You get to decide. Take a minute and write down your dream… even if it feels impossible to obtain.
  3. Step. You now know how blessed you are, even if things are not perfect in your life right now. You also know how you want to feel and how you would like your life to look. You have an idea for your dream life. In every goal there is a gap between where you are now and where you would like to be. Some gaps seem impossible to bridge, and so that is why we take baby-steps.Take a moment to write down one thing that you can do in the coming week to help you move toward your goal. No step is too small.

Now that you know what is possible and what you want you may encounter some challenges along the path. It’s okay! Just keep moving forward.

Ready for a change? I work with clients just like you who are looking for big change and have either encountered obstacles along the way, or who struggle to figure out what the next ‘big thing’ is for them. Contact me today for a consultation to see if the DreamBuilder program might be for you.